Keep your bond strong during the tween and teen years
Even through defiance, distance and disconnection.
Hands up if parenting your daughter is throwing you some curve balls?
Why wasn't this bit written in the child-raising terms and conditions? The dream was laughter and hugs, deep conversations over hot chocolates. That look in her eyes that tells you you're the only one in the world she wants near her in difficult moments.
It was meant to be riding bikes in cul-de-sacs and being home by dark. Villages raising children and respecting elders.
Now the world you are trying to raise your daughter in is terrifying, its boundaries expanded into digital lands and relentless doubts and fears (for both of you) clouding your decisions.
And rather than seeking your wisdom and protection, she's shutting you out, shutting you down, and trying to navigate these formative years on her own.
If you are...
- Confused by her (frequently!) changing behaviour
- Seeing new challenges from hormones to social media to bullying everywhere you turn
- Worried that the decisions you're enforcing are making things worse
- Wondering how you can stay connected as you see her pulling away from you
You are not alone.
But it's hard to believe things could be different when...
nothing you try is working and you're at a loss for what to do next
you're tired of feeling angry, frustrated and disconnected from her
you're exhausted by the moodiness and emotional outbursts.
You're not making this up.
She (probably) is being difficult! But here's why...
Stick with us here. You see, your daughter has got a few things going on in her world as well.
Emotionally she's three seats ahead of you on the moods rollercoaster, with (often inexplicable!) highs and lows.
Digitally she's attempting to navigate an overwhelming and all-consuming 'online life' littered with threats, both real and imagined.
Physically she's dealing with body, hormonal and brain changes that make her feel self-conscious and out of control.
Mentally she's hitting the Identity Phase hard and seeking her independence (from you!) and possibly engaging in risk-seeking behaviour.
Socially the landscape is an every-shifting sand-dune of new year levels, friendships and societal expectations.
What if you..
Knew what the heck what was going on?! Understood and anticipated your daughter's behaviours and moods so that you could respond instead of react.
Said the right thing at the right time in order to create open communication and a safe space so you could help her through challenging times.
Felt sure in your decisions. Could parent instinctively and knew exactly when to step in and when to step away.
Become a connected guide for your daughter and build a relationship that will last a lifetime.
The parenting program changing lives.
A comprehensive online coaching program delivered by 'Teen Whisperer' Tanya Meessmann and neuroscientist and counsellor Dr Diane Harner to build your confidence as a parent as you navigate the specific challenges raising a daughter in the 21st Century presents.
Parents share the impact Courageous Parenting has had on their relationships with their daughter
A unique and powerful blend of:
Understand how the changes taking place in your daughter's brain is driving her behaviour
Increase your awareness of your daughter's internal world and the pressures that she is facing
See exactly how these theories are applied in every-day situations and start smoothing out the bumps!
When is the right time for Courageous Parenting?
You're a parent of an 8-11 year old who knows that the 'teen years' are just around the corner, and want to get prepared to support your daughter through them.
Your 12-14 year old daughter is heading into the thick of the 'Identity Phase' so she's pulling away, emotions are running high and everything you do and say is wrong!
Life with your 15-18 year old is a whole new level of challenging. You may be experiencing defiance, push-back, communication breakdown or low confidence issues.
Every day matters. The time to start is now.
The results speak for themselves...
"The program gave me deeper recognition of my role as, not so much my daughter's disciplinarian, but the caretaker of their own identity."
MELISSA - Parent of 12 and 14 year old girls
"Doing this program at the stage we're at as a family has been really good because it's given us the skills to develop and use now, and also down the track."
RICHARD - Parent of 9 and 12 year old girls
Introducing Tanya & Dr Di.
As founder of Girl Shaped Flames and youth expert, Tanya Meessmann has worked with over 3500 teenage girls, their parents and educators to develop their confidence, resilience and self-belief. Through this work she’s been recognised as a thought-leader in the confidence space and is often found working with full school cohorts and speaking at corporate events on the life-changing effect confidence has on girls.
Dr Diane Harner has a PhD in neuroscience and has been applying brain science to decode our thinking and behaviour for the past two decades. As a mentor and adolescent counsellor, she has worked with adults and children from all walks of life to empower performance, build resilience and confidence and enhance self-awareness and emotional regulation.
“These ladies know what they're doing. Tanya and Di have joined forces to change the way parents who are raising daughters in the 21st Century are supported.
Their outstanding sense of humour and no-BS approach to telling it like it is... has created one of the most powerful parenting programs you will learn from, ever.”
Here's how we transform your parenting experience...
Why you parent the way you do... and why she behaves the way she does.
- Identify how your own childhood influences have shaped how you parent
Develop an understanding of both of your triggers and what to do when you set each other off
- Build knowledge and empathy through understanding your daughter's brain development
Understand your daughter as the person she is today including her fears, motivations, values and influences
Using communication to build your connection & grow her confidence
- Understand your different communication styles and how they work together (or don't!)
- Navigate the endless 'push-back' and what to do when she shuts you out
- Recognise when her confidence drops and how you can support her
The role failure, judgement, rejection and uncertainty play in your daughter's life
- Build a deep understanding of 4 key fears influencing your daughter's behaviour
- Learn our signature process to help her manage highly emotional situations
- Know exactly what to do and say to protect your relationship and avoid making things worse
Putting it all into practice: your take-action toolkit
- Translate what you have learnt into simple and practical activities, tools and strategies
- Discover ways you can build your daughter's confidence, and your bond with her
- Understand your new role as it sits today and how it will continue to evolve in the future
Finishing strong with the BIG issues
- Managing disrespectful and defiant behaviour while keeping your relationship intact
- Supporting your daughter through toxic friendships and friendship loss
- Navigating her negative thinking, anxiety and risk-aversion
- Parenting self care: because if you fall apart, she will too
You'll also get access to:
SETTING BOUNDARIES WEBINAR
An insightful 40 minute webinar providing immediately applicable tools and strategies to help you set and hold boundaries, as well as determine and action consequences effectively.
Value = $97
SOCIAL MEDIA AGREEMENT KIT
Use this customisable agreement and video series to stimulate conversation and collaborate with your daughter to set clear and healthy social media and screen boundaries.
Value = $47
CONVERSATION STARTER KIT
This kit arms you with the tools you need to 'kick off' engaging conversations with your daughter in just a few minutes a week, helping you develop a strong. and robust bond.
Value = $127
"I feel that as a parent, my confidence has been reinforced by the content, especially the neuroscience. I have a clearer understanding where my daughters are at developmentally, and to also know that I'm not alone feeling like this."
MELANIE - Parent of Grade 7 and 9 girls
"I feel so much stronger as a parent, I think we both do. For the first time, I actually feel like I'm equipped to understand a lot more about how I actually parent them to develop the best version of them, for them."
ALYSSA - Parent of 10 and 12 year old girls
Here's what's included when you register.
Instant access to the complete Courageous Parenting program*
(* When paying in full, otherwise released monthly)
Lifetime access backed up by our 14-day Money Back Guarantee
50+ 'Coffee break'-length coaching videos, full written summaries and downloadable worksheets
Setting Boundaries Webinar & Reference Materials
Social Medial Agreement Kit
Conversation Starter Kit
Lock in 6 months' support with both Tanya & Di.
Know that the challenges you're facing with your daughter are running deep, and looking for more detailed and personalised support for BOTH of you?
This is a rare opportunity to lock in support from BOTH Tanya and Di for 6 months, to help both yourself and your daughter understand what's going on between you, develop alignment in your goals and expectations, and start kicking some goals in each of your lives.
Included in this package is:
- All of the Full Courageous Parenting Coaching Program inclusions, calls and FB Access
- 6 x 1:1 60 minute Counselling / Coaching sessions with Dr Diane Harner for either parent, daughter or together (1 per month for 6 months)
- 6 x 1:1 60 minute Coaching Sessions with Tanya Meessmann for one or more daughters (1 per month for 6 months)
- 6 x 1:1 60 minute Coaching Sessions with BOTH Tanya & Di for one or more daughters (1 per month for 6 months)
- Lifetime Access to all course contents, including call replays
- 14-day Money-Back guarantee
- On-the-go App Access to course contents
* 1:1 Sessions must be used within a 6 month period
* Payment Plans available
Is it worth the investment?
You're covered by our guarantee.
Everyone's parenting challenges are different. We're confident that Courageous Parenting can provide the support, down-to-earth advice and immediately applicable tools and strategies that *most* parents need in their circumstances.
However if you get into the program and know within the first 2 weeks that it's not for you? We'll refund your full payment with no questions asked.
Your relationship with your daughter starts with you.
The journey you are on with your daughter is complex. While she is certainly your focus, your confidence, calm, and enjoyment of your parenting journey is also important.
A strong bond, mutual respect and healthy communication are key to keeping that connection between the two of you, so she knows where to turn when she needs support.